{"id":107896,"date":"2024-07-30T10:00:00","date_gmt":"2024-07-30T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/propertyupdate.com.au\/?p=107896"},"modified":"2024-07-29T13:21:51","modified_gmt":"2024-07-29T03:21:51","slug":"worry-is-worthless","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/propertyupdate.com.au\/worry-is-worthless\/","title":{"rendered":"Worry is worthless"},"content":{"rendered":"

Worry is a terrible strategy, but for a long time it was the only one I knew.<\/p>\n

Now, I consider this a safe place, so don't judge me when I tell you a little story.\"S00604<\/p>\n

For years, when I would send in the sketch that goes with my column for the New York Times, I would worry my editor was going to email me back.<\/p>\n

This says a lot about the power of the impostor syndrome which we can talk about another day, but the point today is that WORRYING didn't help ANYTHING!<\/p>\n

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I would bring my worries to my business partner (also known as my wife.)<\/strong><\/p>\n

I would go on and on about \"What if....\" And when she seemed annoyingly calm, I would say, \"Aren\u2019t you worried?!\"<\/p>\n

She would simply say, \"I could be worried if you want me to, but I don\u2019t see how it would help.\"<\/p>\n

It might feel like worrying helps.<\/p>\n

But as Shantideva said:<\/h2>\n
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\"If you can solve your problem, then what is the need of worrying?<\/p>\n

If you cannot solve it,\u00a0then what is the use of worrying?\"<\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n

I'm going to resist the temptation to offer suggestions.<\/p>\n

I have found stuff that works for me, but I'd love to learn what works for you.<\/p>\n

When you find yourself in a cycle of needless worry, what do you do to snap out of it?<\/p>\n

Leave a comment below and tell me your story.<\/p>\n

Editor's Note: this article was originally published a number of years ago, but has been republished for the benefit of how many subscribers.<\/em><\/span><\/p>\n

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