{"id":47518,"date":"2024-04-14T10:30:00","date_gmt":"2024-04-14T00:30:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/propertyupdate.com.au\/?p=47518"},"modified":"2024-01-30T17:15:17","modified_gmt":"2024-01-30T06:15:17","slug":"worry-isnt-something-value","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/propertyupdate.com.au\/worry-isnt-something-value\/","title":{"rendered":"Worry Isn\u2019t Something We Value"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I worry about money.<\/p>\n<p>I bet you worry about money, too.<\/p>\n<p>But here\u2019s the interesting thing: I\u2019ve never worked with anyone who identified \u201cworry\u201d as something they valued.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-81461 size-full img-responsive\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/Art22_Letting-go_sample.jpg\" alt=\"Art22_Letting-go_sample\" width=\"800\" height=\"616\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/Art22_Letting-go_sample.jpg 800w, https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/Art22_Letting-go_sample-600x462.jpg 600w, https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/Art22_Letting-go_sample-300x231.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/02\/Art22_Letting-go_sample-768x591.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>So why do we let worry about money drive so much of our thinking and decision-making?<\/p>\n<p>My experience suggests our worry comes from trying to control things outside our control.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"toc_link\" id=\"for-instance-we-can-worry-about-whether-well-ever-have-enough-money-to-retire\">For instance, we can worry about whether we\u2019ll ever have enough money to retire.<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>We can also worry about whether we\u2019ll have enough money to help our kids with college.<\/p>\n<p>Both of these goals are important. <!-- BODY -->\r\n<!-- \/21854739906\/BooksAll \r\n<div class='gam-all googlead' id='div-gpt-ad-1591967275697-0'>\r\n  <script>\r\n    googletag.cmd.push(function() { googletag.display('div-gpt-ad-1591967275697-0'); });\r\n  <\/script>\r\n<\/div> -->\r\n\r\n<div class=\"adplugg-tag\" data-adplugg-zone=\"books_of_michael_yardney_body_\"><\/div><\/p>\n<p>However, we\u2019ve got to realise that even if we do everything within our power, we may still come up short.<\/p>\n<p>Humans have a hard time accepting this outcome.<\/p>\n<p>We want to believe that doing and trying will always be enough to overcome every obstacle between us and our goals.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"toc_link\" id=\"so-whats-the-alternative\">So what\u2019s the alternative?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>This leads me to a crazy idea.<\/p>\n<p>What if we commit to doing everything we can, then, we just let go?<\/p>\n<p>We let go of the worry.<\/p>\n<div class=\"alignright\"><\/div>\n<p>We let go of the fear.<\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"toc_link\" id=\"we-let-go-of-trying-to-control-things-we-cant-control\">We let go of trying to control things we can\u2019t control.<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>Yes, this idea might sound radical.<\/p>\n<p><!-- Shortcode [markbouris] does not exist -->And yes, telling someone to \u201cstop worrying\u201d is easier said than done.<\/p>\n<p>But I\u2019m blown away at the number of people who\u2019ve never considered this option.<\/p>\n<p>I suggest that we treat worry as a sign that we need to revisit the things we\u2019ve said we value most.<\/p>\n<p>Using these values, we can begin to weigh if our worry is really worthwhile or if we\u2019re focused on the wrong thing.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-post-fullsize wp-image-119767 img-responsive\" src=\"https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/3-prayers-for-when-you-cant-stop-worrying-anxiety-stress-american-bible-society-blog-800x485.jpg\" alt=\"3 Prayers For When You Cant Stop Worrying Anxiety Stress American Bible Society Blog\" width=\"800\" height=\"485\" srcset=\"https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/3-prayers-for-when-you-cant-stop-worrying-anxiety-stress-american-bible-society-blog-800x485.jpg 800w, https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/3-prayers-for-when-you-cant-stop-worrying-anxiety-stress-american-bible-society-blog-600x364.jpg 600w, https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/3-prayers-for-when-you-cant-stop-worrying-anxiety-stress-american-bible-society-blog-300x182.jpg 300w, https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/3-prayers-for-when-you-cant-stop-worrying-anxiety-stress-american-bible-society-blog-768x465.jpg 768w, https:\/\/cdn.propertyupdate.com.au\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/08\/3-prayers-for-when-you-cant-stop-worrying-anxiety-stress-american-bible-society-blog.jpg 825w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<h2><span class=\"toc_link\" id=\"are-we-really-doing-everything-we-can-like-sticking-with-our-budget-and-meeting-our-savings-goal\">Are we really doing everything we can, like sticking with our budget and meeting our savings goal?<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>If so, take a step back and recognise that worry doesn\u2019t need to play a lead role in our financial decisions.<\/p>\n<p>Again, I understand that banishing worry doesn\u2019t come easy.<\/p>\n<p>But there\u2019s so little to lose, and so much to gain if we can learn to put aside the worry and focus on what we can control when it comes to money.<\/p>\n<p><em>Editors note: This article was originally published a number of years ago and has been republished for the benefit of our many new readers.<\/em><\/p>\n<!-- \/21854739906\/BookingDiff \r\n<div class='gam-diff googlead' id='div-gpt-ad-1652273749636-0' style='min-width: 320px; 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